This is a very hard post for me to write.
My mom got a puppy from the pet store about a week ago. I told her to get an older dog or at least go to a rescue but I should have tried harder to talk her out of it. She's had poodle puppies and was sure she could handle it, despite doing research online mentioning how stubborn and hyper they can be.
Now, the puppy is absolutely overwhelming to her. I take care of the puppy exclusively 6.5 days a week, but she still says it's way too much to handle in our household. We've been working on potty training and she already has a 50-75% success rate, but my mom insists on zero accidents and it causes huge fights if there is one. The puppy chews and bites, and we all hate that, but my mom doesn't like talking sternly to animals, so all the training is left to me (and she now bites me only rarely, but still goes after my mom nonstop). I tell my mom to be consistent and not undermine my training, but it causes a huge fight because a daughter shouldn't be bossing her mom around I guess.
I've grown very attached to the puppy, but she is definitely the most difficult I've ever had. She's not bad at all. Just an average doxie from what I've read. And she's soooo sweet and affectionate and attached to us.
Now my mom says we have to return her to the pet store. The thought of this tiny warm little thing going back to that cage breaks my heart. But she can't live in a house where everyone but me hates her. If we have to re-home her, I want to pick a great family, NOT return her. I'm worried she'll be scarred for life and get separation anxiety or learn not to trust people. I rationalize it by saying re-homing her now is better than re-homing her later, and that it's not emotionally different than when I've fostered kittens for a couple weeks and then re-homed them, but it feels devastating. I've become the exact type of person I hate, letting this happen.
I don't want to beg her to keep a dog she hates, the puppy doesn't deserve that kind of family. Mom refuses to do a training class or invest any more in this "lost cause" hyper puppy. She doesn't even want to play with her or exercise her.
There's pretty much nothing else I can do to make this better except look for a new thoroughly-vetted home.
We are in California if anyone reading this is interested in her and has dachshund experience. Otherwise, any advice at all is welcome. You can even tell me that we're monsters if you want. I deserve it.
My mom got a puppy from the pet store about a week ago. I told her to get an older dog or at least go to a rescue but I should have tried harder to talk her out of it. She's had poodle puppies and was sure she could handle it, despite doing research online mentioning how stubborn and hyper they can be.
Now, the puppy is absolutely overwhelming to her. I take care of the puppy exclusively 6.5 days a week, but she still says it's way too much to handle in our household. We've been working on potty training and she already has a 50-75% success rate, but my mom insists on zero accidents and it causes huge fights if there is one. The puppy chews and bites, and we all hate that, but my mom doesn't like talking sternly to animals, so all the training is left to me (and she now bites me only rarely, but still goes after my mom nonstop). I tell my mom to be consistent and not undermine my training, but it causes a huge fight because a daughter shouldn't be bossing her mom around I guess.
I've grown very attached to the puppy, but she is definitely the most difficult I've ever had. She's not bad at all. Just an average doxie from what I've read. And she's soooo sweet and affectionate and attached to us.
Now my mom says we have to return her to the pet store. The thought of this tiny warm little thing going back to that cage breaks my heart. But she can't live in a house where everyone but me hates her. If we have to re-home her, I want to pick a great family, NOT return her. I'm worried she'll be scarred for life and get separation anxiety or learn not to trust people. I rationalize it by saying re-homing her now is better than re-homing her later, and that it's not emotionally different than when I've fostered kittens for a couple weeks and then re-homed them, but it feels devastating. I've become the exact type of person I hate, letting this happen.
I don't want to beg her to keep a dog she hates, the puppy doesn't deserve that kind of family. Mom refuses to do a training class or invest any more in this "lost cause" hyper puppy. She doesn't even want to play with her or exercise her.
There's pretty much nothing else I can do to make this better except look for a new thoroughly-vetted home.
We are in California if anyone reading this is interested in her and has dachshund experience. Otherwise, any advice at all is welcome. You can even tell me that we're monsters if you want. I deserve it.
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